Hi @pinkhope
I always prided myself on my positive attitude and resilience but I fell into a bit of a heap when diagnosed.
I liken it to grieving the death of a loved one - but the death is of your formerly “ bulletproof” self!
I had a couple of sessions with a psychologist who specialised in cancer related distress and it was very helpful.
One of the things she told me was it was ok to cry - I did a LOT of crying in the beginning but hardly any now ( 2 years on).
I also decided to celebrate the good things in my life and try and discard the bad things as much as possible - I have learnt to say “ no” and be a bit selfish.
Exercise is also great both mentally and physically - I am pretty religious about my daily walk and in summer love a dip in the ocean.
Take care 🌺