Hi @Spiv1803
As @Molly001 said, most of us find that our partners turn into boofheads, alcohol inspired or not.
They simply do not understand the physical and emotional journey and, as we continue on with our lives doing what we've always done, they just think all is well in their world - not even thinking about us.
Is his drinking perhaps a reaction to what is happening to you ? Some partners fear the worst and do not know how to cope.
Do seek some advice and do talk to him about how he makes you feel.
You are in our thoughts.
Summer :)