I am eternally grateful that my brief sojourn with a counsellor was productive and the right fit. A colleague was strongly recommended to seek help after the prolonged and utterly dismal illness and death of her partner. She had supported him selflessly through an unending search for a cure, denial, collapse and was near collapse herself. Her first foray resulted in being asked to complete a 26 page questionnaire which in essence was delving through her entire life and childhood to discover what trauma was now affecting her. WTF? Apparently loss, grief and misplaced guilt (she finally told him there was no more treatment possible) was too simple. Go for the entertainment value. Numpty is such a good word!