@Cowgirl1
I can recall going to my first forum and I hated it. I sat through the day and those around me had no idea how I felt. All that said to me was I wasn't ready to sit in a group and listen to others. On here I can read stories or skim past; in control totally of the emotions. Don't feel guilty and let the emotions roll when they come. I haven't really been in that predicament; as my surgeon has said, I am as tough as old boots and was very accepting from the start.
Prior to my diagnosis I had been to a fund raiser for a dear family friend, in her late 30s, who has metastatic cancer. Perhaps that is why I am so accepting of mine, nothing like our family friend.
We are all different and there is no judgment. This is your journey and roll with it! If you use the search area in this site you will find lots of information that you may find beneficial with your lymphedema et cetera
If the tears come let them roll, most believe it is part of cleansing. Golly I watched the movie The bucket List last night, seen it many times before, but now with where I am at the tears were close by.
Take care