Managing anger

Hi Huggy,

You have a right to be pissed off.  You've come such a long way. 

I agree with many of the comments that some people just don't know what to say and try relate in some way, which just comes out so wrong.  I experienced that yesterday with a well meaning colleague who overstayed her visit by about an hour after talking about dr experiences 23 years ago when she was pregnant!!!

Fortunately I have a close group of friends who have each experienced a relative with bc and tell me regularly that they don't know what it's like to go through this, and are constantly encouraging me to get on the network and make connections with others who have. 

Some people get scared with the word 'cancer'.  I know one of my sisters is like that.  I've only received one direct call from her once since I called her about my diagnosis (6 weeks ago).  She's sent a few texts about being busy, or sick.  But I know she doesn't cope or want to cope.  I'm still not sure how I feel about that.

You've come such a long way in 12 months with reconstruction as well. Be kind to yourself

Karen xx