Managing anger

Many people around us do not know what to say, sometimes avoiding us is easier, I think a lot of people automatically associate it with death. So they either say ridiculous things or nothing at all, I remember my sister in law said your so lucky look how much wait you've lost. Idiot. I'm 3 years post and still get pissed of as everyone thinks yeh she is back to normal, but it's our normal and they will never understand. Only the ladies here do. Regards adean