@hendrix I'm so glad you started this thread. Reading everyone's comments makes me feel like I'm not alone. Can't even contemplate sex post surgery and during chemo! The blood nose, uncomfortable expanders, fatigue, and peripheral neuropathy are all total passion killers - not to mention that my life can be basically described by three words - dry, drier and driest! @kmakm I love your 'intellectual activity' approach. I'm definitely going to go on the 'Yes lubricant' website and will order a truck load - but not until after radiotherapy. You hit the nail on the head Kate - it's just in the too hard basket right now!