Intimacy

Hi Leanne,  Where do I start to support you?  Without knowing what stage you are at in your treatment or what meds you are on, I can only comment on how I "ride" the intamcy trail.  Being on Arimidex my libido has pretty well "sailed away" compared to how it was prior to bc diagnosis over 6 years ago.  I am thankful that my husband works so hard and is very tired most of the time - going to bed way before me.  I find myself counting the days - dreading the "gaps" between sessions knowing that I will need to "get in the mood".  So probably I am lucky that my husband still finds me desireable. (not getting to a solution for your problem yet)  When I first had surgery, my husband avoided me too not wanting to hurt me.  Then when I had chemo he would "freak out" when I went to bed without a cap to hide the bald head.  And of course during chemo ,sex was limited due to toxicity issues and of course illness.  It really is a timing thing - my husband was sympathic to my needs (or lack of) when I was ill so now  It is  about me being aware of supporting his needs and being more available than I really want to be.  The starting point for you is through your mouth - it is called communication.  Find out exactly how he feels about everything. You may need to talk to a professional - the sooner the quicker you will solve the issue.  I do use a lot of humour - even in intimacy.  Good luck XLeonie