Intimacy

Hey LeanneIntimacy mmmmmm I think it is one of the hardest things to come out of BC journey..........To make light of your post I did have a giggle when I read that you had sex on your birthdays so I thought mmmmmm that sounds like my relationship at the moment.  Sex twice a year LOL hee hee hahaha  I did see the funny side of it but I do know sincerely that it isn't  funny what you are having to deal with at the moment.  Sex in most relationships plays an inaugural part and when that isn't working properly along with all the other crap we go through with this bloody BC diagnosis it is very concerning.It is very hard for husbands to discuss their sex life as every man has an ego and there is so much in the media etc. that makes sex  into something out of this world.  I know my hubby is finding it difficult to deal with my lack of libido because being the beautiful person that he is and a male he believes making love is his main way of showing me how much he loves me but for me at present sex is definitely not up there on the top of my list right now.  I probaby have good old Femara along with a whole pile of other things to thank for that.Communication in relationships is probably number two on the list of being able to work through your marraige.  I hope you and hubby can work past the blame game. I know my hubby was very scared in the beginning of hurting me following my surgery etc. so he did tend to leave me alone more than normal.If your hubby is unwilling to talk to you to tell you how he is feeling or more importantly at the moment for you to be able to tell him how you are feeling.  Perhaps you could sit down and poor your heart out to him with pen and paper??  It has worked for me before.I am truly sorry that you are struggling with this and I really hope you and hubby can work through this and move past it and just enjoy the fact that you are still alive to enjoy your lives together as a family.Good luck luvy and as Tonya said get a hold of the fact sheet and booklets.  If you are still struggling then there is the Cancer Council hotline on 131120 where you can chat to someone or there is your breast nurse from the hospital who can perhaps give you details of someone who can chat with you.  Most importantly remember that we are here to support you and I am sure there are so many of us pink sisters who can relate very well to your situation.Lots of love, Mich xoxo