In denial

hi ladies. I sometimes get so frustrated that we don't have answers to this stuff! All I can suggest is to use Yes every night for 2 weeks to really restore normal moisture, then use it every second or third day. Then have a couple of glasses of wine to relax you. I still tense up and fear penetration, so we usually have non penetrative sex. Like you I have absolutely no desire whatsoever, but just keep going with it because I refuse to give up and let this bloody disease wreck yet something more! Our sex life is now maybe once every 2 - 4 weeks, but to me that's better than nothing at all. Hazel, I really feel for you. Please check with your GP re your husband's situation - if it's ok for him to have sex, then that's one thing off your plate. I think you just have to take it really slowly and gently, and if it hurts you, just stop. Use the Yes water based moisturiser, and use heaps of the Yes oil based lubricant - and I mean heaps. Slather it on. Re feeling unattractive. I think we all go through that. Julie suggested wearing sexy sheer tops at one stage - I think that's a great idea. I'm 18 months post a bad implant job but now I just look in the mirror and shrug. Other things have become more important, and my partner is incredibly supportive. Take care, Pam xx