In denial

Hi Hazel, 

welcome to the group. I think most of us here have felt like you feel. One of the main problems for me is that everything has dried up down there. Add to that numerous UTI's. You can see where this is going can't you. Not much sex!! 

I have really struggled with the lack of closeness and intimacy between my husband and I. It's almost like it's become too hard and now neither of us are making the effort. I think that the fact that I am acknowledging it is a step in the right direction. My husband was wonderful during my treatment but I think it left him emotionally drained and now I think we are struggling to find that closeness. 

I have discovered a wonderful product called YES which Pam (Daisymarigold) recommended. I have been on and off it but have now realised that things are better if I use it regularly. I am really scared of getting another UTI and so need to make sure everything stays lubricated. Now if I can just get interested..... 

I live in hope that things will somehow get back to some sort of normal for us. 

I can understand your fear. Maybe look into getting some YES or some other sort of lubricant. Unfortunately YES isn't available in Australia but they have a great website. I was using replens before that and it is ok, but a bit messier. ( the things we discuss here), 

In regards to worrying about your hubby hurting himself, what does his Dr say?  Maybe you can start off slow?  Be teenagers again?  

I feel your pain. Hang in there. You are not alone. 

Paula x