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Help I'm desperate
My wife was diagnosed in 2006 after being told (following a biopsy) that she didn't have cancer!
She had a papaloma removed from behind her nipple and they found cancer in what they cut out despite...
The helpline has been invaluable in keeping really bad thoughts at bay (can't say more) but doesn't really help in re-establishing the trust that has been lost.
I think underneath it all is fear of further dissapointment and rejection and a contributor to that is all the "positive reinforcement" that goes on. To quote "I feel like a peice of crap so why shouldn't I say so but no-one wants to hear that they only want to hear how it is making me stronger".
I have committed the cardinal sin of a)trying to fix things and b) make her feel better in the past for which I have paid dearly.