Help I'm desperate

Hi Andrew,

Sorry to hear you guys have had such a rough time of it. I know how your wife is feeling.You put your trust in a specialist and sometimes you get let down.  But you can't then mistrust every medical person.I broke my ankle 3yrs ago and I trusted this so called leading orthopedic dr.He talked me into surgery- plate and 5 screws.Well he put the wrong scew in and I was in agony and on crutches for 5months with him telling me I wasn't trying.An xray revealed his mistake and he promptly did more surgery to remove plate and pins.Even then he couldn't get it right and left a srew sticking in a muscle.Another 8mths on crutches,physio,pain++ and then a cat scan showed the offending screw.Needless to say,I found another surgeon to clean up his mess and he was great.I'm still not right and the 2yrs of needless pain and disability took it's toll on me and my husband.So last year I got breast cancer again(first time in 2003)and had to have a mastectomy and chemo.I had great doctors and a terrific breast care nurse. It makes a big difference- it makes the awful experience tolerable.

I think your wife could have depression and you need to find a sympathetic gp.Certainly getting her to come on this site would be really helpful.The women that I chat with are amazing support.We all help each other through this diffcult journey.I know my self esteem has taken a terrible blow but I am improving with the help of a loving ,patient husband.You may not think it but you are helping your wife alot by caring and being there for her.

                             Tonya