Hi Summer. If you haven't already, spend some time reading Liz O'Riordan's blog. She's a breast surgeon who got breast cancer. It's a cracking good read. She's a good writer and her insights from both sides of the fence are excellent.
http://liz.oriordan.co.uk/Blog/@Sazbe @JoeyLiz and @kezmusc may have some thoughts on this that could assist.
My feeling is that if she's at work she must want to be. So like @Annski says, give her the emotional space to be a doctor for you. Depending on your relationship you could tell her that you are upset and struggling with the brutal unfairness of her situation.
I understand that you don't want to load her up with it. Maybe ask someone who works with her if she's understanding of how her news affects her patients? Either way, some deep breaths before you enter the room.
It's a very difficult situation. I'm tremendously fond of my BS. If I found out he had cancer I'd be very upset.
Don't panic. Try to get a good night's sleep so you've got some reserves to draw on tomorrow. K xox
