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hair saga
It has now been 8months since I had chemo. I think I've seen high rise buildings go up quicker than my hair! I can't do anything with these chemo curls-they have a mind of their own.I look in the mirror and can hardly recognize myself.Wish I could embrace the new look and skip out the front door.I try but then chicken out and put on a headband.I have a drawer full of headbands now.I know I'm lucky to be alive and shouldn't be so vain. But somewhere along this journey of losing body bits and confidence,I lost the image that was "me".
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Thanks chemostyle(what's your first name?)some good ideas there.Yes I will get the new improved picture up there soon.
Tonya
Hi Tonya,
This Hair Saga has lots of "progress" reports ... we want to see the new-fabulous short hair you? How about new TonyaM profile photo.
i am a little ahead of you interms of hair grow 18 months later, just finally look a little bob with lots of curls. (Especially an Asian woman who use to have straight smooth hair .. go figure, chemo also zizzled my hair follicles) I know what you mean about curls finding their way - have you try "Hair Clay" product from the hair salons? The work better and last longer, very different to the supermarket stuff. Or you can go back to the old-fashion hair clips!! Here are some ideas
Hi Cathy,
You are so right about the hair colour thing.I"ve had a brown colour plus light streaks put in and a trim at the back.I felt soooooo much better about myself even though short hair isn't me.When I got home my husband kept looking at me and smiling.I must have looked really crook before! Yes,I have to blow dry the front and spray it a bit but the curls find their way back.I'd like to get to the "bob"stage too.My eyebrows and lashes are on the thin side too but I use mascara and pencil to help.How good are you losing 5kg!! That"s the amount I'd like to lose.I feel more motivated now since fixing my hair.Crazy hey?
Tonya
Hi Tonya,
The appearance change is so difficult to deal with. During chemo I was completely bald with no eyebrows and eyelashes, grey tinged skin, and body bloated up like a dead fish. Very hard to keep your spirits up when you look like that and the only thing that fits you is one pair of trakky dacs!!
When I was bald I made the decision that however my hair grew back I would accept it and go au naturel. Well, when it grew back curly and grey I quickly changed my tune! I looked ridiculous (I am only 42 and had no grey hair before). So off I went to the hairdressers for a beautiful natural looking tint and it made the world of difference to how I felt about myself. The curls are difficult. I stick my head under the tap every morning and give it a bit of a blow dry to straighten the front bit and it looks okay. I'm going to grow it into a bob which I think would look quite pretty with waves.
What is depressing for me is that my eyebrows and eyelashes only half grew back and I don't look like I did before at all.
I do think Tamoxifen affects your weight. I stacked on 10kg very quickly and am slowly losing it again - heaps of exercise and eating much less. 5kg lost already.
You can do it! Make yourself and your health and fitness a priority!!
Love,
Cathy
Hi Tonya,
The appearance change is so difficult to deal with. During chemo I was completely bald with no eyebrows and eyelashes, grey tinged skin, and body bloated up like a dead fish. Very hard to keep your spirits up when you look like that and the only thing that fits you is one pair of trakky dacs!!
When I was bald I made the decision that however my hair grew back I would accept it and go au naturel. Well, when it grew back curly and grey I quickly changed my tune! I looked ridiculous (I am only 42 and had no grey hair before). So off I went to the hairdressers for a beautiful natural looking tint and it made the world of difference to how I felt about myself. The curls are difficult. I stick my head under the tap every morning and give it a bit of a blow dry to straighten the front bit and it looks okay. I'm going to grow it into a bob which I think would look quite pretty with waves.
What is depressing for me is that my eyebrows and eyelashes only half grew back and I don't look like I did before at all.
I do think Tamoxifen affects your weight. I stacked on 10kg very quickly and am slowly losing it again - heaps of exercise and eating much less. 5kg lost already.
You can do it! Make yourself and your health and fitness a priority!!
Love,
Cathy
Hi Louise,
You can't control those hormones-they have a mind of their own.Seems like alot of bleeding though.Leading up to menopause I would get heavy,irregular periods.It makes you so tired.Hey,in another few months you'll be up to the headband stage!! Honestly it grows so slowly.Hope you feel better tomorrow.
Tonya xx
I understand what everyone is saying....I want the old me back too :( I am sick of not knowing what my body is doing.
My hair is coming back (slowly but a lot of grey!) but I think it will still be months before I can go without my wig.
My weight seems to have stabilised again...although at about 5kg heavier than I was before I started chemo/Tamoxifen.
Now my periods seem to have come back with a venegance - really really heavy (changing tampons every hour) and I don't know what to do about that! I am really crampy and feel really down today.
Hopefully tomorrow will be a better day :(
Louise
I understand what everyone is saying....I want the old me back too :( I am sick of not knowing what my body is doing.
My hair is coming back (slowly but a lot of grey!) but I think it will still be months before I can go without my wig.
My weight seems to have stabilised again...although at about 5kg heavier than I was before I started chemo/Tamoxifen.
Now my periods seem to have come back with a venegance - really really heavy (changing tampons every hour) and I don't know what to do about that! I am really crampy and feel really down today.
Hopefully tomorrow will be a better day :(
Louise
Thanks Moira,that's good to know about the weight thing.It's really strange that you put on weight from chemo when you don't feel like eating.I think my weight gain might be from Tamoxifen -hey,got to blame something!
Tonya xx
look forward to seeing the new look tonya soon then. hope you get the desired effect. new hairdresser seems like a good idea, GOOD LUCK X I also put weight on during treatment , but without trying to i lost 10 kilos in 18months after treatment., so hopefully it the same for everyone, it will gradually come back to normal
