Thanks Melinda I've spent today being quiet and reflecting on everyone's views. I think I've tried to do too much ,tried hard to be my usual busy self and my body is just not up to it,so it seems anyway. I agree it's really frustrating , the lack of control. I thought I was doing ok but seems like the breast infection is knocking me around a lot. So I'm going to try and do a bit less and be a bit more patient with myself and where I can do and see if I feel any better. Any maybe see the counsellor again and back to the surgeon to see what's going on with the breast that won't settle down. Lyn