I know exactly what you mean about not taking on other people's problems! It's not selfish at all, it's just being realistic. We can't change other people and often that is what needs to happen if they are to solve their issues.
Having a serious health problem does change us and what we see as important. In that way maybe we are now lucky because we don't waste time on the little unimportant things. It sounds like you feel good about your life now. I hope that things continue to go well for you and your partner. :) Deanne xxx
(Thanks for your support too!)