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Sevenbe
10 years agoMember
Fertility preservation - what's involved?
Hi everyone. I'm 33 and was diagnosed a few weeks ago. I don't have children and for most of my life I've never wanted them, but I've never completely 100% ruled them out either. It's been suggested ...
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Sevenbe
10 years agoMember
Thanks Willow. It's nice to hear of someone else struggling with these decisions.
My husband and I have been together for 7 years, married for 2, and I couldn't really see myself having kids with anyone else, so embryos makes sense for us. I don't think I'd have felt that way when we'd only been together 18 months though, so I really feel you there.
I hadn't even thought about the possibility of the cancer coming back after children and leaving him as a single parent. That's a sobering thought. But I suppose leaving a little person to carry on after we're gone is part of why lots of people have children, so I don't think it's irresponsible, so long as he's okay with it. But I think you're right about trusting your feelings at the time and just forgiving yourself later if those feelings change. Sometimes things happen and sometimes they don't. A big part of life is learning to make the best of the hand you're dealt.
All that said, I think I've decided to go for it in the end. I'm still not sure if I'll ever use them, but I'm feeling more "maybe" than "definitely not." I figure this way I'll at least maybe have some options if I feel more confident about wanting them in the future.
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