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Encouragement and control of fear
PANIC, FEAR, CONTROL, FEAR, SURVIVAL
I am noticing some common links to all the women who speak openly on BCNA. It doesnt involve what Cancer type, what style of treatment, or how many children you have. The common link are our emotions. Their Ebb and Flow, and ultimately how we control our fear and regain strength to endure - to regain happiness in our lives.
We all panic to start with, scramble for understanding, ask questions, learn and recover our control.
Fear is only an emotion with a bad result attached.
Mastering control of fear is an art form we are all now learning to achieve.
Relaxing music, painting, fresh air, exercise, walking, and deep breaths followed by "Live in the here and now" calm my mind.
At times we all feel like we are in a car without brakes, driving downhill, but the faster you take control of your fear, the sooner you will relax, and great are the results.
I currently am just over another bout of Fear, now back in control, I have found a better place.
Today, I am ok.
Love to those who relate to this.
xx Bel
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Thank you for your honesty about how youre feeling leading up to surgery is a tricky time. Our damn minds seem to talk constantly dont they, and trying to think of other topics is a real challenge. What is worth a try is getting into some deep breathing exercises and just think about quieting the mind. Its easier said than done, The only things that switch my mind off the constant thinking are reading, and watching light stuff on the TV. The reading is easier in the middle of the night (husband is still in spare room), by switching on the light reading, it helps me. I have noticed when Im really having trouble sleeping I need to read the same page over 10 times, its a give away Im stressing! Most options make too much noise, like boiling the kettle to make Camomile Tea, but they say it is best not to get onto the computer, as it wakes you up further, so have a note pad and pen by the bed and write down what you are thinking, that helps me too. Please know we are all thinking of you next week during surgery, sending out the prayers, and wishing you well. Big hug, Bel xx