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Encouragement and control of fear
PANIC, FEAR, CONTROL, FEAR, SURVIVAL
I am noticing some common links to all the women who speak openly on BCNA. It doesnt involve what Cancer type, what style of treatment, or how many children you have. The common link are our emotions. Their Ebb and Flow, and ultimately how we control our fear and regain strength to endure - to regain happiness in our lives.
We all panic to start with, scramble for understanding, ask questions, learn and recover our control.
Fear is only an emotion with a bad result attached.
Mastering control of fear is an art form we are all now learning to achieve.
Relaxing music, painting, fresh air, exercise, walking, and deep breaths followed by "Live in the here and now" calm my mind.
At times we all feel like we are in a car without brakes, driving downhill, but the faster you take control of your fear, the sooner you will relax, and great are the results.
I currently am just over another bout of Fear, now back in control, I have found a better place.
Today, I am ok.
Love to those who relate to this.
xx Bel
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Hi Bel...
A wonderful post, just at the right time. Thank you. As soon as I start to feel the old anxiety return, I head for this site. I'm starting the 'waiting game' again. Bone scans, cat scan scheduled for next week (suspected mets) then I have to wait another week until our shared oncologist can see me. Aahhhh!!!! Jo
Lovely post ShirlO,
I recommend anyone on here, to read it. It really is a physical and emotional journey.God luck, Kathy. OX
Lovely post ShirlO,
I recommend anyone on here, to read it. It really is a physical and emotional journey.God luck, Kathy. OX
Love you girls. XLeonie (PS I am off for my mammo and u/s tomorrow - I needed these words)
Tears came to my eyes (yep again), sigh, when I got to the last words I read from all the lovely ladies who responded. From now on Shirl, I am going to steal your Mums mantra "Dont look over your shoulder at where you have been, look ahead to where you are going" brilliantly put. Reading everyones comments always gives me a lift ! Thank you again. Love Bel
Well said, I can relate, and some good tips to help keep fear under control.
Kathy.
Great words,great insight! I think the "unknown"causes great fear but once we have an answer(whether good or bad)we can usually get our head around it. If fear or stress creeps up on me I allow myself 48hrs to either solve it or shelve it! I then use distraction/relaxation to forget about it.I often find that my "shelved problems/fears"sort themselves out.
Tonya xx
Great words,great insight! I think the "unknown"causes great fear but once we have an answer(whether good or bad)we can usually get our head around it. If fear or stress creeps up on me I allow myself 48hrs to either solve it or shelve it! I then use distraction/relaxation to forget about it.I often find that my "shelved problems/fears"sort themselves out.
Tonya xx
- Great post Bel. I'm going to try some of your tips. I guess the further we come in our journy the better we are able to learn how to cope. I know after my surgery I was in a really good head space, I had a handle on everything that was happening to me and understood the road a head. Then Chemo started. Now I have to start all over again. I know once chemo is over and the feeling so awful has lessen or gone I'm sure I'll get back to the head space I was in after my surgery. It's great all the advice that is on here.Vanessa x
- Great post Bel. I'm going to try some of your tips. I guess the further we come in our journy the better we are able to learn how to cope. I know after my surgery I was in a really good head space, I had a handle on everything that was happening to me and understood the road a head. Then Chemo started. Now I have to start all over again. I know once chemo is over and the feeling so awful has lessen or gone I'm sure I'll get back to the head space I was in after my surgery. It's great all the advice that is on here.Vanessa x
