Hi @Cath62,
I can related to all of the above,I have read both the books that you mention and have a 1 hour
monthly telephone appointment with my pyschologist, all of this is long in the past now, however I do have the same thoughts as @AZ79, that stress and trauma over a very long period of time can have a contributing factor to bc diagnosis,I have been with my pyschologist for over 20 years now and through her have learned very valuable lessons in how to deal with everything life has thrown at me, I am in a reasonably good place at the moment and have a fantastic supportive partner.
wendy55