can't sleep due to anxiety with upcoming surgery

Hi Anita,  the nights are the worst.  It will settle down but something I was told to do and worked was write down all my thoughts in a notebook before going to bed or when I woke up.  It seemed to help get rid of them and I could then sleep.  I think your hubby will love you just the same and be glad to have you still in his life!!  Maybe also the dr about a relaxer tablet.  I was given Ativan and used those occasionally.  They didn't affect functioning the tnext day! Lx