Betrayal

Let’s just say lovelies families are just fucked sometimes hey. I just read all your stories and OMFG!!  I had issues with my mother in law too. She had no issues taking the train 4 to 5 times a week to the PA from the Gold Coast which took her 2 hours to see my hubbys brother in rehab post quad bike accident he got out after 6 months then I got diagnosed  just after he got out then she made every excuse under the sun to not to have to come and support my hubby and kids for my first mastectomy in redcliffe even though she had a lift with hubbys sister and it was only 1 day she came as she was pressured to come and thats the only reason. Even hubbys brother came and was happy to be there brain injury on board as well. And she’d hardly ring either when I was having chemo and when she did it was only to talk about hubbys brother. 

we dont speak with her now and it’s for the best. @"Kiwi Angel" dont let it get you down @primek makes a lot of sense for sure. She probably did it to get a response from you. She sounds a bit narcissistic which is exactly what my mother in law is.  We will be the family you need on here love.  Big hug. Margie xxx

Reminds me of a song from my youth “ The Living Years” by Mike and the Mechanics

@SoldierCrab @Sister @kmakm @kiwi angel ,never quite got the fact that we are all so alike ,thought it was only me that felt like this !! What women want is actually simple  & the fact that the kids & partners don't get it says more about them than us I suspect ! Who actually brought the food for our lunch yesterday ?? To be fair ,hubby & 1 son asked what to buy but it was too late !
@eastmum I used to do that with the clues for special occasions but I ended up thinking why should I ?? Always saying i'm not cooking !! Present lists on the fridge sometime work !Lol
We loved to be loved !Its not that hard ! :* <3 
 

@"Patti J" that’s horrible!!  How can u say they to someone. 

Sounds like there was many a disappointing Mother’s Day for one reason or another. 

I do miss my mum! She was the glue that kept my family together. I haven't  had her for more than 30 years. She had Alzheimer's disease and died when she was 67.
My husband's mum died when he was 7. His father was an evil man. After he died, my husband's nasty stepmother told my husband that his father believed that he was the reason his mother had died!!!! How did he think babies were made???
So, my son has never had a grandmother. I miss him and his wife too because they are such a long way away. They both sent me Mothers' day wishes. 

I quickly learnt that unless I set the groundwork for what I needed my kids/husband to do for me, I would be disappointed LOL - so I start a few weeks before Mother's Day or my birthday with stuff like 'I really love cards on (insert occasion here) - a beautiful card is all I need', and 'Just letting you all know that I'm not cooking on (said celebration date) so it would be great if you could think ahead and organise something....', or 'wow I love that (whatever), what a great pressie that would make!' - mind you, it doesn't always work hahaha. I'm sure once they move out of home it will be a completely different story! 

@Finch So true. No tears were shed, but there was a little bit of hurt. Sorry you had some too. K xox

I don't worry too much about it now.  My kids always want to make a fuss but Mother's Day is actually Mother-in-Law's day around here.  I think I'd had about 10 of them when someone made a remark that "Oh you're a Mum, too, aren't you?"

oh tigerbeth I hear you   hugs girl 

@Finch that is so true - never appreciated my mother until she was older and now, unfortunately she isn’t here. I would be exactly the same mother too I think - hear her in myself all the time.