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Betrayal
just found out at Mother’s Day lunch that my Mother in Law has told my brother and sister in law (who we are estranged from and haven’t spoken too in about 6 years) about my breast cancer diagnosis af...
As with @"Kiwi Angel" - I only excluded those 2 (who also live many hundreds of miles away.) I am totally with @Romla and you KiwiAngel - this time, I let pretty well everyone else know pretty well straight away, cos when my husband was diagnosed with stomach cancer in 2010, he didn't want ANYONE to know - and that impacted SO badly on me! I was taking him everywhere on my own, doing all the arranging without ANY support at all ..... and bursting into tears if I bumped into someone at the shops who asked the 'casual question' of "How are you Going?". I then set up a 'bulk email' to keep everyone in touch with his diagnosis & what was happening, explaining that we may not be able to respond to every return email ..... After the surgery & Chemo, I got Keith his own iPad so that HE could reply to all the emails from family & friends (I'd been his social secretary for 9 months at that point! LOL)
And - some good things can come out of a cancer episode ........ It was actually thru my husband's cancer that I took up ukulele again (I played it every so briefly back in 1970 before my sister left our boarding school & took it with her.) I found a neat banjo uke in a 2nd hand shop in North Sydney when visiting Keith's specialist - and bought it! hehe - little would we know that it would end up dominating our lives - by me starting the Forster Jumping Fleas!! LOL And now - my uke buddies are amongst my best friends & supporters - especially since my diagnosis in early Jan - and 2 who had had BC were able to give me tips & info that helped me in the early days especially. I've also been able to help support 3 members now, thru their own current cancer battles - and they feel totally at ease with talking to me about pretty well anything, in private or public. I am so proud of them. None of them could play an instrument before joining the group. And here we are, entertaining others now.
And - some good things can come out of a cancer episode ........ It was actually thru my husband's cancer that I took up ukulele again (I played it every so briefly back in 1970 before my sister left our boarding school & took it with her.) I found a neat banjo uke in a 2nd hand shop in North Sydney when visiting Keith's specialist - and bought it! hehe - little would we know that it would end up dominating our lives - by me starting the Forster Jumping Fleas!! LOL And now - my uke buddies are amongst my best friends & supporters - especially since my diagnosis in early Jan - and 2 who had had BC were able to give me tips & info that helped me in the early days especially. I've also been able to help support 3 members now, thru their own current cancer battles - and they feel totally at ease with talking to me about pretty well anything, in private or public. I am so proud of them. None of them could play an instrument before joining the group. And here we are, entertaining others now.