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Betrayal
just found out at Mother’s Day lunch that my Mother in Law has told my brother and sister in law (who we are estranged from and haven’t spoken too in about 6 years) about my breast cancer diagnosis af...
I totally respect and understand your choice about disclosure of this hideous disease.I thought I’d risk it and say I chose a different path.
I chose to disclose it to those I dealt with on a daily basis simply and without fanfare.To me I felt it may encourage another person to have a mammogram and that whether I liked it or not it was now part of my life and I intended on getting on with my life treatment and all.
From past life experience - eg a horrific early menopause when the subject was a state secret to be endured in silence and a terrible genetic disease kept a secret in my bil’sfamily - I formed the view that silence did more damage than good so when it is necessary or appropriate I choose to share .
I have drawn great strength from the sharing on here and the knowledge I am not alone.It lightens my load to see other bc people walking around my town as I know life goes on.
I think things kept hidden don’t bring solutions.I don’t share with many my innermost thoughts but my diagnosis , treatment I feel no shame in sharing.This bloody disease needs to be normalised so we can get on curing it.I don’t seek sympathy or hoopla just acceptance of who I am and where I’m at.
PS I too have family issues that some of you have spoken of but I figure that’s their problem not mine. Mind you it took some years and some heartache to get to that point.
I chose to disclose it to those I dealt with on a daily basis simply and without fanfare.To me I felt it may encourage another person to have a mammogram and that whether I liked it or not it was now part of my life and I intended on getting on with my life treatment and all.
From past life experience - eg a horrific early menopause when the subject was a state secret to be endured in silence and a terrible genetic disease kept a secret in my bil’sfamily - I formed the view that silence did more damage than good so when it is necessary or appropriate I choose to share .
I have drawn great strength from the sharing on here and the knowledge I am not alone.It lightens my load to see other bc people walking around my town as I know life goes on.
I think things kept hidden don’t bring solutions.I don’t share with many my innermost thoughts but my diagnosis , treatment I feel no shame in sharing.This bloody disease needs to be normalised so we can get on curing it.I don’t seek sympathy or hoopla just acceptance of who I am and where I’m at.
PS I too have family issues that some of you have spoken of but I figure that’s their problem not mine. Mind you it took some years and some heartache to get to that point.