Thanks Anita. Unfortunately I don't have a breast care nurse with whom to communicate. However my GP has been very helpful. She has put me in contact with a psychologist. It's amazing how emotions creep up unexpectedly. Brings back such vivid memories of my mother and father both being diagnosed with cancer at the same time. Mum left us after 2 months and we had dad in a wheel chair at the funeral with doctors in attendance in case he didn't make it. He passed on 12 months later. I thought I had put it all behind me and it seems so long ago now, but emotions never seem to be logical. I'm going to ask a lot more questions before I consent to surgery this time. So glad I didn't go ahead with the surgery today. It would definitely not have been a wise move. Does the cancer council provide any support for husbands and children.