Hi Kathleen, I think it's a great idea to start up this blog about anxiety and depression - as it certainly needs to be addressed. I myself suffer from panic attacks and I have a couple of people tell me "to just get over I". I wish it was that simple. I find that when I am tired I am worse. Good on you for starting on this topic. Love, Ruth xxx

Thanks so much Ruth! I was hoping it would be a good thing! Be assured, you can't be told to "just get over it", as people think they can do with depressed persons...asking them; "so what are you depressed about?" I've put my hand up for depression counseling, and looking forward to it. It happens to many of us, can be for many reasons, and talking about it helps I think. Hopefully we'll get some more members and throw some support and strategies around! Love from Kathleen xx

Hi Kathleen, I could not find the page yesterday so I continue to do so today and I am very happy to have found it 'depression and anxiety' ! thank you for starting this page Love Finita xxxxxxxxxxx

Dear Finita I'm very glad you found it! I know a lot of we girls share insomnia problems, worry and depression. So I thought I would start a new line if discussion. It will help all of us to share our feelings in this way. It is a normal reaction as a result of our condition, how we accept it, how our families accept it and most importantly how we choose to deal with it. And if course to be aware that the medication we need to be on for breast cancer can, in itself, be a a cause of all of these negative feelings. Don't be afraid to talk here-we all experience it differently, and having this thread I hope will help us all and give us new and positive strategies that we can share. Welcome and thanks so much for joining! Take care Love from Kathleen xx

Hi Finita and Kathleen, I am so glad that I have you girls to talk to. People don't understand. I have a Friend who thinks I'm okay and should go back to doing everything. which I morealess am except for driving. I am still sore and I have had no help or sympathy from her. She is the one who told me to just get over my panic attacks. But when something goes wrong with her she expects all the sympathy and even has a Husband to help her. I try to be positive and manage on my own but it seems as though she is jealous of me or something. I just don't get it.

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finita
Member
11 years ago
Hi Ruth,

I am so happy for you about your kidnyes draining, that is great news indeed ! As for the lymph nodes , fingers crossed till your scan, and I will pray for you . Honestly , you are so brave raising money for bcna ...good for you my darling girl, and keep up the good work.

Yesterday, had a full Bone Scan and CAT scan of my ribs and scapula . As my husband is having his lumpectomy on Friday, I have decided to postpone getting my results till next Monday, so that we can have a couple of good days without bad news. I will be back next week with my results!

Take care and God bless

Finita xxxxxxxxxxxxxxx
Bella314
Member
11 years ago
well done Ruth! you are still out there helping others, even while fighting your own battle. You are strong and inspirational woman! xx
shortlionruth
Member
11 years ago
Hi Ladies! I went to the Urologist Yesterday. The good news is that both Kidneys are now draining. The bad news is that the lymph nodes are growing. I have to have another scan is a couple of Months as I have Lynch Syndrome which affects the Kidneys ( another cancer gene). I saw on Television last Night that fear and depression often follow Breast Cancer. I found that very interesting. I also did "Relay for Life" on the Week-end. Our team raised the most money again this year. Overall $105, 00 was raised for Cancer. It was a great effort for everyone involved.
KathleenT
Member
11 years ago
Hi all Here's me, putting my hand up saying "me! Me!" Lol! Me & driving? O my gosh! Yep! Quite scared now-have been for some time. Plus I can say that some of it is actually not being able to sit &concentrate on driving for long distances. For example....my son is marrying in December on the beach at Lorne on the Great Ocean Road. Theres no way I'd be able to drive that far from north of Melbourne, so dans parents in law are driv8ng me, bless them. With all my stiffness & silly back, I can only go about 40 ks-to my appointments at the hospital & to the support group's meetings. So I don't believe any of us should feel bad about not driving as much. The thing to get over is the ability to ask for help. You might be surprised how many will assist you when needed. Don't feel bad about being afraid. As I am a passenger in a car heading close to the city, I think to myself how they can cope in the traffic. Seems to be a common thing among us! Love and hugs to all Kathleen xxxooo
Bella314
Member
11 years ago
Hi Ruth and Finita,

I think you're both being very wise (and brave) admitting to your fears and limiting your driving to what you are comfortable with. Power to you! and don't let people bully you (because that is what it is) into something you're not comfortable with.

xx Bella
shortlionruth
Member
11 years ago
Hello Bella and Finita. I am glad that I am not going crazy and thinking that maybe it's just me. I have been driving for about 35 years and in Cities and busy Highways. Now I get so anxious unless I am driving around our small town. It is horrible, Finita because People try to make me drive more. We know our capabilities and I feel I could cause an accident being so nervous. My car was written off a few years ago when someone didn't give way and side-swiped me as I was driving on the highway a few years ago. I don't think this has helped either. I am so glad we can discuss our insecurities on here and be listened to. Thanks Ladies!! Lots of Love, Ruth xxxxx
Bella314
Member
11 years ago
So many things have changed with us, haven't they. I am very fortunate not to have the anxiety as you have described it, particularly in regard to driving; but I agree, that people just don't get it. Just do what you can, when you can, and try to let go what you can. At least we can vent here!

Take care ladies.

xx
finita
Member
11 years ago
Hi Ruth,

I know exactly what it is that you are going through regarding your driving and the fear and horror . I know that they tell you to keep it up and it will get better with time...sadly that is not the case with me and I can only drive around country with little traffic. It is too horrible, after 30years of dricving non-stop, I feel like a prisoner and my brain still doesn't understand WHY ?? Only those of us with anxiety can understand . All I can say is that if you don't feel comfortable, then don't drive to ''certain places ''!. I have stopped driving amongst heavy traffic and freeways , for fear of having an accident .

goodluck and take care

Finita xxxxxxxxxxx
shortlionruth
Member
11 years ago
I know what you mean about not telling people how you feel. They just don't understand. But I am greatful for every day. I am finding my anxiety attacks seem to be getting worse as I drive on the Highway and I am reluctant to go into a bigger Town. I tried to explain this to a Friend and she just said that I had to keep it up. I would love to be able to get in the car and go anywhere I wanted but the fear holds me back. I wish you all well on your journeys. Look forward to hearing from everybody. Lots of love, Ruth xxxxx
finita
Member
11 years ago
Hi ladies,

you are so right Bella, living with pain means that we are alive ! I will know about my new pain soon as I will be having a Bone Scan on Monday , plus x-rays of my chest , ribs and scapula.

Ruth and Kathleen , thank you and do take care of yourselves and as Bella said...Keep on Keeping on !!!

I will pray for all of us ,

lots of hugs always,

Finita xxxxxxxxxxxx

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