Angry and anxious

I have been lucky in that many true friends have stepped up more than I ever knew possible and support from them is amazing. I find that it is family that I get angry at, one of my brothers has totally avoided me and his wife whom i previously considered my sister has not made a single attempt to contact me at all! I do not understand this and feel total anger and hurt that they have done this. Then there is my husband, I love him I really do but now that surgery is done (for now until I go back for a mastectomy) and I look 'normal' at least for another 2 weeks till my hair falls out, he seems to have gone back to pre diagnosis times in regard to his contributions to daily tasks and looking after our 3 and 7 year olds. I get really angry at him, how dare he ignore what is happening to me, how dare he expect me to be able to do as much as I used to even though I'm exhausted and in pain, he gets a lot of my anger lol and unfortunately with less energy my kids get a much shorter tempered mother. This I think I feel the worst about. There are so many things we battle with, I think the fact we get up each day can sometimes deserve a major prize! Don't give yourself a hard time, look on the bright side, you haven't actually pushed anyone's faves in yet! Lol