After breast cancer and menapause

You made me laugh Bella with the Randy bit but I know where you are coming from.  Men are from Mars and women are from Venus and I guess the Randy bit comes from Mars and never quite reached Venus. (sorry it may have reached a few of the lovely ladies that were living on the outskirts of Venus at the time.  hee hee  LOL.I believe for some couples and  males in particular that sex is what a relationship is all about BUT!! there are so many men, like your hubby who love you no matter what and definitely live in the fear of hurting you so they don't want to go there cause they don't want to cause you any further pain.This whole relationship, sex, libido, love, affection, trust, faith, heartache, desire, no desire, oh ok then but hurry up and get it over with.............. and so it goes on and on and on manages to put so much pressure on relationships and on us as individuals and for men, well my man especially his way of showing me how much he loves me is with making love, not mad passionate love, but love that means something and feels something and makes us feel special, important and to remind us that we are the person he chose to spend the rest of his life with. BUT!!!! once again BC diagnosis seems to have taken that away.  I think it is something that we all do need to think about and work on but when we are feeling so ill, so fatigued, so frightened, stressed, lonely and all those other emotions that take over with a diagnois of BC THEN love making seems to just go on the back burner but hopefully for all of us beautiful and wonderful pink sisters it will sneak back in to our lives one day without us even noticing.  Fingers crossed.Lots of love, always, Mich xoxoxoxoxoxoxo