6 months pregnant and newly diagnosed

Hi Emma, and welcome to our site. You've been through heaps and have so much to consider. You'll get lots of support and advice here, people who understand your anxieties, and who can steer you in the right direction. Sending you and your family a big cuddle, Trace ????????

Hi Em,

It sounds like you are doing all the right things and have this under control, despite all the other family challenges. Family challenges are good, but they're still challenges!

I found the fatigue the worst too. Morning sickness in pregnancy was far worse than any nausea I experienced on AC chemo.

You must have a little bub (congratulations!!) only a few weeks old now and right in the thick of sleepless nights as well as chemo.  I hope you're starting to see the light at the end of the tunnel.

Just keep doing what you're doing and know it gets easier in time. 

I've had my mastectomy now and am about a third the way through radiotherapy. My daughter is now 9 and a half months old - again, sorry this reply is so delayed! Hopefully we'll be able to give her a little sister or brother in a year or two once all the rough treatment has come to an end. If not, I'm so pleased to have her that I'm totally okay with having just one child if it comes to that.

Good luck with everything, you'll smash this!!

Marina

PS: I just can't imagine what going through this must be like without your Mum but no doubt she gave you the "tools" to deal with something like this long before she passed away so you can always be grateful for that. xx

HI Marina

Thanks for your kind words. Yes I agree having breastfeeding taken away from me, my choice of obs, hospitals for bub etc has upset me the most I think. Especially as this is my third and I thought I knew what I was doing but it's all changed.

I'm being induced 5 weeks early so can fit in with my chemo cycles (currently on 3 weekly AC). They didn't want to delay the chemo...

Not having mum is so hard and the side effects of chemo are similar so it is also hard to see but  I feel removed like it is happening but not quite to me. Tiredness is my biggest issue, with two other little boys plus it seems 4-5 medical appts per week for me and/or bub let alone final stage preg and chemo. Plus my eldest just started school, and I feel so bad for him I can't get involved more.

On the upside I have wonderful friends and family helping me and I am pregnant with my third child (and he is trhiving - not bothered at all) - so many people on here have the fertility choice taken away from them. I can't imagine having to decide those sort of choices.

I do have my moments but I try and look for the "good" (or at least remind myself it could be worse).

Em xx

Hi Emma,

Sorry to respond so late - I only login every now and then. That's a lot to go through in a week (and the inevitable rest!) 

I was diagnosed at 37 weeks with my first so she was induced at 38+6. I understand the feeling of having your birth plans (and breastfeeding etc) being taken away from you, it's really shitty. I was more upset about being told I couldn't breastfeed than the diagnosis itself, I think.

My daughter is nearly 6 months now and I have 3 more rounds of taxol (chemo) to go and then see the surgeon again for a likely mastectomy (I had a sentinel node biopsy and axillary clearance shortly after the birth with one node showing signs of cancer.) I have radiotherapy after that plus more rounds of herceptin (as my cancer is er, pr and her2 positive.)

You'll get through it. It's not ideal timing but when is this news ever ideal? 

Best of luck with the new bub - I'm not sure whether you're having him early or not but if not it must be getting close to the birth which is very exciting!! 

I'm so sorry to hear you've lost your Mum to (a different type of) cancer so recently too. We lost my Dad in 2010 to renal cell carcinoma (kidney cancer) but I can't imagine what losing your Mum must have been like.

You sound like a strong person mentally and I'm sure you will put this in the past once it's all over and done with. My advice (being a similar type A personality) is accept just about every bit of help you're offered and if friends ask how they can help and you can't think of anything ask if they're happy to cook a dinner you can freeze. Things like that really helped me even.though I usually try to do everything myself.

Good luck with your 3 boys and of course getting through all of this.

Marina

xxoo

Hi Emma,

we all understand your concerns. This site is great for support and advice, just keep logging in with us. 

Sending you a big cuddle, Trace ????????

Thanks Karen. Yup very scary and all happened so fast my head is spinning!

I guess now that the first part (diagnosis and surgery) is over, its a waiting game now for the chemo. My first AC treatment is in ~2 weeks and I'm kinda nervous about what is going to happen.

I saw my mum go through chemo (for leukemia) and it was not pleasant to see let alone how she must have felt :(

I do have the my journey kit, so much info to read through and digest!

Thanks again xox

Hi Emma

welcome but so sorry you have had to join us. Another little boy! How wonderful for you. 

It's hard in the early days as you don't know what's going to happen and the goal posts seems to be forever moving. It is a lonely time as it feels like no one gets it but that's where this forum comes into it's own. Although we are all individuals and our diagnosis and treatments are all different, you will generally find someone who has been through what you are going through to some extent and understand. It really does help to get it out of your head and down on paper so to speak. It is a scary process but you will get through it. It's not pleasant by any means but neither is the other option. Write down all of your questions and ask your health professionals everything you want to know. If you haven't got it yet, a my journey kit may be of help. Lots of useful information. You can always ask any questions here as well. All the best and take care. Karen xox

Thanks Rowdy xx

Hi Emma welcome to this site., I'm glad that you have found this site so you can vent away. Everybodies trip is so different, but trying to take it 1 day at a time can be hard but sometimes the only way to get to the end.

Take any help that is offered  you will need it, and yes it is a shitty trip, take care

Thanks Nadine. As much as I hate to think of anyone having to go through this I know that I am not alone in taking this journey.

Details are my life (I'm an engineer) so just taking a day at a time and not knowing what is around the corner is going to be hard for me.  But 2 little boys and bubs is sure to keep me busy.  

Thanks for your kind words, 

Em xx