Ladies a friend of mine (who also has metastatic breast cancer - we have been mates for 30 years) shared this on Facebook over the w/e. See link below -
I am sure there will be many familiar sentiments that each of us have come across.
Of course there are the favourites I am sure we have all heard -
"Is there family history of breast cancer" ('cos only women with a family history get it, right ? and so I had a choice in who my parents were anyway ?)
"Try yoga; meditation; organic food; eliminating sugar; eliminating meat; only eat greens; juice everything"
"I know a friend/work colleague; neighbour who had breast cancer & she is fine now"
"I couldn't do what you are doing ?" - like I have a choice ?
"Can we bring our newborn baby to see you because you are having chemo and you might poison him with the chemicals" - from my husband's brother (my in-laws wonder why I have a distant relationship with them !!!)
Over the last 13 years I thought I had heard them all but, nope, I still get new ones ....
"Try asparagus, it cures cancer"
"There is a doctor who operates and cures lymphedema" (yeah - not curable - and most programs will not even considering you if you have secondary bc)
"How long do you have ?" - not even mention of prognosis and this came from an upstart who I was training to take over my job so that I could ease into part time work !
So, incredibly frustrating but it simply makes me more determined to grit my teeth and just get on with it.
@Zoffiel - just love your response to the person enquiring about your prognosis !!! :)
