@Twiggy34B . I would definitely chosen a different surgeon in hindsight but I started off with a lumpectomy which was perfect and the partial mastectomy was as expected. It was the full mastectomy with lymph node removal that he stuffed up and then he told me I had stage 4 cancer when I didn't - needless to say I now have a new surgeon.
I took my husband to all appointments apart from my latest oncologist ones as they are quite routine. It is completely up to you though - if you feel you need to do it by yourself its your choice. He could always meet you afterwards?? xoxox