Hi Lazyblackcat , thanks for reaching out here for help. I can really sense how overwhelmed you're feeling, especially when you're already dealing with treatment, menopause symptoms, poor sleep, and everything that comes with a cancer diagnosis. The fear and panic can sometimes make us jump straight to the worst-case scenario, and that can be such a hard place to sit in.
Hopefully you can take some comfort in knowing you have the right answer - checking this with your oncologist is the best next step. However it sounds like you don't feel comfortable being open with him - I'm sorry to hear this as it can add an extra layer of difficulty to an already challenging situation.
You deserve to feel safe, seen and heard by your oncologist, and there is nothing wrong with getting a secnd opinion if you feel like he might not be the right fit for you. Do you also have a breast care nurse that might be able to answer this for you?
Please call us on the Helpline on 1800 500 258 if you want to chat through anything at all ❤️