Hi Bel, I get you about "carrying your boobs around". I am also big; G cup. I fount it easier to shower if my hubby held them for me. What a laugh, we did that for about 3or 4 days, he loved it!
I found like you would, that regular shops just don't stick our sizes. The hospital bra was too small. I found XL arh bras great till I could wear a proper bra. I wore 2 or 3 at a time to have enough support. I wore them to bed. I was worried about the scar stretching.
Both my hubby and I found that being alone was the worst time. Thats when your thoughts travel to all the bad places. So it's good for you that your parents will be there when your hubby is out. I have a small house too, but can't help you with that one.
I'm going to try your sleeping tablets, at first I was sleeping really well, but not now. But reluctant to take more drugs.
Good luck with your results.
Cheers Louie