@KezzaG @EAA I get so fed up with being told to 'stay positive'. It makes zero difference and I think can lull you into a false sense of security. Which could lead to a much nastier emotional result if the f****r does come back, and possibly lead you to not spend your time wisely.
I would much rather we were told to "stay realistic". Give us ALL the information: breast density, the fact that mammograms aren't perfect, especially with ILC, risk factors, and that 20 - 30% of ER+ early breast cancer will recur. There have been people here who've not been told about the genomic testing because their doctors have (erroneously) thought they couldn't afford it.
We're NOT babies! I'm a bloody grown-up. Treat me like one.