How supportive is your partner?

Nix said:

Well, I just got my diagnosis and now my partner is probably the furtherest thing from my mind. If she sticks with me then that's great but I have my doubts. I don't blame her, she didn't sign up for this.  It will be a messy hard slog and as a few people have mentioned. I have no time for bystanders, your either in for the ride or adios. 

Thanks everyone. You guys rock. 💕🌈

This exactly @Nix.  You need to be focused and concentrate on you, your needs, your visits, your information.  It's a whirlwind of a time and you really need not be distracted by anyone who isn't firmly on your team.  It will all work itself out one way or the other.  But you come first.  I gave my partner the opportunity to walk because I told him he didn't sign up for it.  He chose to stay and was great.  But I was prepared to do it alone and sometimes I preferred to be alone than have him here too. Do whatever your heart, mind and gut tells you to.  You have to have your own best interests at heart and be prepared to advocate for your decisions and your health.  She'll step up or step away.  Good luck!!!!

I am So sorry that your partner isn't being supportive of you at this point in time, @nix - that sucks.  Maybe she'll 'come good' ..... all the best with your surgeon appt on Friday xx  As the others have said, once you have a 'plan' it sort of becomes easier .....   take care, be kind to yourself xx

Just keep plodding. Trudging, dragging your sorry arse, whatever it takes.
When you find you are the main course in a totally movable feast there is little point in wondering when, or where, the meal ends. Mxx

@nix As many of us have found, once you have a direction to move in, it starts to get easier to cope with.  It'll never be "okay" but starting whatever treatment regime you have been given, seems to mean that you can stop floundering in that morass of despair.  You need to focus on you, now.  

Good you get to see the surgeon Fri @Nix and start a plan. Plans really help us feel like we are doing something. You have a great attitude and determination. Be kind to yourself too.  This is a great bunch of people to talk to. Sending hugs 

@Abbydog triple negative stage 3. I refuse to be negative though and I reckon I'll beat this. If I don't think positive ill crumble. Breast surgeon Fri to discuss what we need to do. 

Sorry @Nix, it sounds like you didn’t get the news you wanted. Please share with us any doubts or fears you have, or ask for advice if you need to. 

Dear Nix,
Do you want to share the news of your diagnosis?
Is there a plan for treatment?

I know 😒

Just remember @Nix, you didn't sign up for this either.