Going off topic

I don't recall anybody complaining about this before. As @Dory65 says...it's a conversation...an electronic conversation, with multiple contributors and many detours. My verbal conversations, as well as my digital ones always go off wandering about like a lost fart in a haunted shithouse. I'm sure if the respondents got waaaay off track, someone would tell us to get it together and get back to the topic. I personally don't like it when one or other person writes something like "I've sent you a personal message" as it feels as if there is something to be said (in the group setting), where only two people know what it is that is being said. Kind of similar to a situation where in a group, two people, who can and do speak the language of all others there, suddenly start a private chit chat between themselves in a different language. Not the same as those two going off to the side to share a confidentiality, but out loud...in front of all the others there...makes me wonder what is being said and why others in the group are being overtly excluded. I'm not including occasions such as when a member posts something and an admin mentions in the post that a private message has been sent to that member.