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getting the breast out of life
Excuse the terrible pun in the headding. i was trying to think of something funny :)
Hello all. Im Anthony. i wanted to join here to learn a bit i guess, maybe get some help on some ways .
I have been a bit shy and reserved about myself since early teenage days, when all my friends grew facial hair and muscles. i grew hips and breasts. and yep that meant the rest of my highschool days i wore baggy t shirts and hoodies. i must of been such a pain to my parents refusing to see doctors on more than one occasion. i felt fine and fit. i just....didnt have the most masculin body.
Anyway im 31 now. im starting "finally" to accept my body is a bit different. learnt to not get angry at people if they mistakenly call me "miss, or her.. or she"... but in my sort of "ITS OKAY TO HAVE BOOBS" mental growth, i have learnt that my mums aunties, my grandmother. and my mother all had breast cancer , my mums aunty had it twice, and died from it i have since learnt. i dont have any of those women in my life anymore sadly and i was too stubborn to talk about my own breasts with them when they were alive.
so i guess....i feel somewhat a drift...... 31 year old guy ... im 5ft 9. 55kilos... with "thanks to the lady at BNT" D cup breasts........now paranoid about their health and prospects.............
Big smiles to you all :)
Anthony
Hello all. Im Anthony. i wanted to join here to learn a bit i guess, maybe get some help on some ways .
I have been a bit shy and reserved about myself since early teenage days, when all my friends grew facial hair and muscles. i grew hips and breasts. and yep that meant the rest of my highschool days i wore baggy t shirts and hoodies. i must of been such a pain to my parents refusing to see doctors on more than one occasion. i felt fine and fit. i just....didnt have the most masculin body.
Anyway im 31 now. im starting "finally" to accept my body is a bit different. learnt to not get angry at people if they mistakenly call me "miss, or her.. or she"... but in my sort of "ITS OKAY TO HAVE BOOBS" mental growth, i have learnt that my mums aunties, my grandmother. and my mother all had breast cancer , my mums aunty had it twice, and died from it i have since learnt. i dont have any of those women in my life anymore sadly and i was too stubborn to talk about my own breasts with them when they were alive.
so i guess....i feel somewhat a drift...... 31 year old guy ... im 5ft 9. 55kilos... with "thanks to the lady at BNT" D cup breasts........now paranoid about their health and prospects.............
Big smiles to you all :)
Anthony
36 Replies
- Lol i did live toni colette in murials wedding lol.
- Did you say your name was Anthony? Toni works as well as Tony. ;) Anyway, good luck.
- Good luck @moose87, hope it goes well. K xox
- So tommorow is d day.. Or day 2 or . Not really sure what will happen tommorow... But prob good timing.. Been having bad abdominal pains so going to the doctor tommorow has come at a good time. I'll be sure to let you all know what happens.
I know how your friend feels too with the explanations. I have stopped correcting people with the pronouns etc. It can just be a bit tricky or awkward with names. Maybe I need a back up female name. On another note.. Tried on some tops today for work :) - I knew a guy that was exactly as you describe yourself. He was much older than you when I met him. He wore unisex clothing but did not bother to hide his curves. He identified as a man but allowed people to think he was a woman to save stupid explanations. He chose not to have an operation as he had become comfortable with himself. As we are always saying here, you need to do what is right for you. It is your body. Welcome to our forum family.
- When I was younger I used to wrap compression tape around my boobs.. Hurt a lot as I got older. But yeah I'm more embrasive of my curves now days. That soubds like a huge journey your friend went on!
- I have a relative by marriage who is transgender. This person was born female, but identifies as male. Last year they had a bilateral mastectomy, referred to as "top surgery". Prior to this, a very tight chest or breast binder was used to flatten the breasts in order to appear (with clothes) more masculine. This person has also been on hormone therapy, one to suppress the female hormones, and another to add testosterone. Perhaps for work, something similar would be helpful. If, however your aim this year is body acceptance, then perhaps not...
- Thanks. Body acceptance is my drive this year I think. Its been tricky to find clothes sometimes. If its big enough to go over my boobs it's too wide in the shoulders and baggy around my abdomen. And usually long. If it's loose enough to get over my bum and hips it's loose aroubd my waist and usually long in the legs. Anyone have any suggestions for decent office attire?
- Welcome @moose87 I got here late but have read your posts. Like the other people have said, I think it's important to find out what is going on. Great that you're accepting your body shape (so many of us never do) but you should know what is makingne related it different from other men. While breast cancer doesn't seem to have a favourite as far as breast size, we know about the hormone relationship so worth finding out. Even without this, the number of women in your family with breast cancer warrants checking out the issue.
- Hi Anthony. Sounds like you're on the right track by checking things out with a doctor. Good on you.
It's very important to know what is normal is for your boobs. 'Feel it on the first' is a good phrase to remind yourself to self-examine every month. Get your doctor to show you how, or find a reliable guide on the internet. Breast awareness means that if a change occurs, you'll be onto it straight away.
https://www.bcna.org.au/breast-health-awareness/breast-awareness/
When I had boobs (I had a double mastectomy last year), all my life the right one had aches and pains, and not just when I was pre-menstrual. No one could ever tell me why. Our bodies are sometimes a peculiar mystery!
My mother had breast cancer and my sister died from it. Then I was diagnosed with it. Turns out we have a gene mutation called CHEK2. If you're in Melbourne you might like to talk to the Peter Mac Familial Cancer Centre. They're the experts on cancer clusters in families.
I like that you're being proactive about your health! Big hug, K xox
