Hi @Brownowl, I am not in your situation but most certainly for many after cancer there is a recalibration. I had treatment last year and this year I feel as though I am recalibrating my life. I have reflected on my life and how I got to where I am and what I want for my future. I am still in that process but I do know I won't put up with much like I use to. My boundaries are different and I am not sweating the small stuff. I want to enjoy every moment and I just live in the moment.
My husband and I meet about 12 years ago, both second marriages. I met him after he had cancer treatment. He ended a bad marriage during his treatment. His final straw was his ex being unfaithful during his treatment. That probably would do it for me too.
I ended my marriage 30 yrs ago and was on my own basically for 20 yrs. I raised a son on my own, so very different to you. I sort help before I ended my marriage. I wanted to be very clear why and be sure within myself. I saw a psychologist, especially one who understands the impact of breast cancer. I am not sure you have gone down that path but maybe consider talking to some so you know if you're dealing with post cancer stuff or marriage or both.
Sending you a big hug 🌻