Breast friends are vital when you’re diagnosed with breast cancer

@Sam09, I've got stage 4 as well, everyone reacts differently, my family were all oh no poor mum, then when I didnt fall off the perch in the next few months it was business as usual, which is actually  mostly fine with me because I really didn't like the sad eyes I got from everyone at first. I'm not a join a group type of person, I've thought about it but I got the feeling it would be sort of like what you encountered, all doom  and gloom and preparing for the worst, talking about wills and power of attorney  blah blah, etc, so not into  that so I started going to the local bingo, I get to hang out with people my age  and talk about all sorts of things, we talk about the aches and pains and all the assorted crap associated with getting older but we're not focused on my cancer and dying but our kids and grandkids and just general every day stuff which works so much better for me. We are all different though and this forum is a great place to come to for reassurance and support for those of us that are struggling or don't have support at home or don't want to burden their families with their concerns because a lot of times our family and friends cope even worse than we do and everyone here gets that and has our backs.