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Nadi
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8 years ago

Here we go again

After my mum's recent diagnosis of pulmonary fibrosis they found a mass in her breast. Tomorrow I am taking her for a fine needle biopsy. At least I can tell her what to expect. She's already convinced she has breast cancer since I've had it. I just don't want to think about what it will mean if she's diagnosed..... It just so happens that the pain in my sternum that the dr thought was costochondritis a few weeks ago has returned. I am now convinced it is stress. All this after I finally heard yesterday that I got Dad a place in a nursing home. He's currently still in hospital and I haven't broke the news to him yet because he hasn't had too many days without delirium from his dementia.

Now I am stating to have a little panic..... I so don't want to go through another cancer journey. Crossing fingers, eyes, toes and everything else that mum's lump is not BC.
  • Nadi's avatar
    Nadi
    Member
    8 years ago
    Hi @Matilda54. Thanks for your message. Yep I am ok. Mum's lump ended up being a large calcification which is great news. Dad has been in his nursing home for 10 days now. It has been very sad and stressful but he does have some good days. It's hard being the only child looking after elderly parents but so many other women are going through the same or worse. I am sure I will get used to all these changes in time. But I am so glad Mum doesn't have breast cancer. Take care
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    Afraser
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    8 years ago
    Such good news about your mother. It is very hard, that transition to caring for those who once cared for you, especially when you have much to handle yourself. Strength to you. 
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    Matilda54
    Member
    8 years ago
    So pleased to hear that your mum is okay and your dad is getting settled.  It's hard splitting yourself in two when there's only one of you. Try to remember the airline instruction when there's an emergency and you're a mother/carer: put the oxygen mask on you first so that you are then able to look after the others. I know it can be counter intuitive but the more energy you have the better you can care for others. Peace and love to you.
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