It's so important to be heard @averi. I sometimes feel that there's some sort of veil that gets draped over the reality of breast cancer (and quite possibly, other cancers, too). What can start out meaning to be reassuring can often have the opposite effect as in your case. Another term I loathe when talking about cancer is "fight" - what happens if treatments don't work - did the person not fight hard enough?.. are they some sort of failure? That's what I liked about Charlotte Tottman's manner - she comes across as straight up. Understanding and empathetic but no sugar coating. Fluffy words are something I no longer have time for.
