New diagnosis, mum guilt and surgery

Hi Bon20​ 

I had a double mastectomy with immediate implant recon at St Andrews War Memorial in Brisbane in Nov 2024.  

Some things I found helpful:-

button up tops (I was told I wouldn't be able to lift my arms above shoulder height while the drains were in). I lived in yoga style pants as they were easy to get on and off. 

I had a small tote with me that I left on the tray table at my hospital bed with a lip balm, moisturiser, phone, phone charger, small notebook and pen (very helpful if you have questions for your surgeon but know you won't remember by the time they come for their rounds)  The first few days I was in quite a bit of pain and didn't want to move too much, so having everything in the bag saved me getting in and out of bed to grab things. 

If you need specific surgical bras, the 'Spirit of Life Boutique' at Clayfield is fabulous and the ladies are so kind, gentle & understanding. 

The hospital provided me with a bag for my drains and two breast care pillows (the pillows were such a comfort - I was able to tuck them under each arm, protecting from any bumps and knocks). I assume The Wesley would also provide similar.

The nurses suggested I have a sick bag with me for the trip home which I was so thankful for as I needed it.  A friend made me a mastectomy pillow for the car that tucked under both arms and protected my chest from the seatbelt. I used that quite a lot during the recovery period.  I'm pretty sure Amazon sell them if you think that is something you might use.

My kids were in their late teens /early 20's when I had surgery so I didn't have to worry about trying to navigate the discussion with them about what to expect when they visited me in hospital, but that may be something for you to consider discussing with your little ones (ie the drains, being gentle when they hug you, the IV/drip  etc)

Thinking of you and wishing all the best for your ongoing journey. Please reach out if there's anything specific you would like answered.