My first post and so confused...
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Hi @annie79. Before you take anything I say too seriously you need to know I'm a fully paid up cranky old cynic. I have, however, been on the cancer bus for a long time. So, with that in mind...
Your breast surgeon is only one of many. I don't like the sound of 'If you don't pay ME you may not get such a good result.' You have many other responsibilities and there are excellent practitioners in the public system. This shit can be insanely expensive through the private system. Which is fine, if you can afford it. That she is employing some form of emotional or financial blackmail on you at this stage gets all my bells ringing. Not just bells, claxons of alarm. You don't need that pressure at the moment and, if I am reading the situation correctly, you may be better off dealing with someone who puts your interests first.
Your husband is a different matter. Some of our folk are really good at putting up links ( @SoldierCrab ) BCNA offers some excellent phone services which can help everyone concerned get their heads around the mess.
If it's any consolation, none of us are ever ready for this. You just have to take it a day at a time and do the best you can. In the end, it's your body and you get the final call. MXX
Your breast surgeon is only one of many. I don't like the sound of 'If you don't pay ME you may not get such a good result.' You have many other responsibilities and there are excellent practitioners in the public system. This shit can be insanely expensive through the private system. Which is fine, if you can afford it. That she is employing some form of emotional or financial blackmail on you at this stage gets all my bells ringing. Not just bells, claxons of alarm. You don't need that pressure at the moment and, if I am reading the situation correctly, you may be better off dealing with someone who puts your interests first.
Your husband is a different matter. Some of our folk are really good at putting up links ( @SoldierCrab ) BCNA offers some excellent phone services which can help everyone concerned get their heads around the mess.
If it's any consolation, none of us are ever ready for this. You just have to take it a day at a time and do the best you can. In the end, it's your body and you get the final call. MXX