Dear @Blister
I may be reading your post the wrong way but your family, with the best of intentions, seem to be taking over for you. Sooner or later, and possibly easiest sooner, you may have to gently remind them that it’s your body, even your cancer, and you’d like to be the one leading the discussions. Their thoughts and experience of course are valuable, but cancer tends to be different for everyone - not just the pathology but mentally and physically. So keep the team by your side, but remember it’s your game. Best wishes.