Hi @Olivegreen, I can understand where you are at. I too was told I needed to have a mastectomy which then became a bilateral mastectomy due to high risk and that my cancer wasn't picked up on standard imaging. It was also a shock. I had a DIEP flap reconstruction. I am now 7 weeks post op and in the last couple of weeks have started to feel a little more myself. I am happy with the reconstruction, I have another minor surgery in 7 weeks to finish things off. I'm pleased you have found this site early, I wish I had known of it before my surgery. Talk as much as you need to and ask lots of questions until you are satisfied. Wishing you all the best.