Dear @MelMac
Commiserations! You don’t want to be here but welcome nevertheless. One of the many things to hit you when first diagnosed is the bewildering range of options and what ifs. Most of us have found benefits in taking one day at a time.
First find your surgeon. Your GP’s referral may be spot on. The new GP at my clinic (she turned out to be excellent) googled for someone ‘who knows more about breasts than I do’. Her first hit couldn’t see me for a month, her second could see me in two days. Nearly ten years later, I still see him annually, a terrific surgeon and exactly the right temperament for me (factual and funny!). If you really don’t feel comfortable, it’s worth getting a second referral.
Your surgeon is well placed to advise on options (you don’t have to make every decision immediately) and may make a referral to an oncologist. Same principle applies - you will spend even more time with your oncologist so it matters that you are comfortable with each other. Trust counts for a lot.
BC can be a bit of an an arduous journey but chances are there’ll be a day when it all seems a long time ago.
Best wishes.