What can partners do to help?

On the outside everyone thought he was doing really well, hanging out the washing, cooking, getting the boys off to music or yachting, footy etc...but inside he was scared and unable to express his fears to anyone but me.  It's been 10 years since I was diagnosed and sadly we had no My Journey Kits or partner CDs so I think it is great that there are now resources out there for partners.  It is always a challenge to get men to open up and I know my husband would not have attended support meetings even if there was one to go to...I think we just need to encourage our family and friends to ask our partners straight out..."and how are you today" do you want to catch up for a drink or whatever, as everyone sends the women flowers, cards and phone calls but forgets about our rock standing strong beside us and all the time that rock has a few little fissures and cracks starting to creep in...

My husband made me immune boosting lunches everyday he was able to get away from work...he read about foods that boost your immune such as Blueberry boost juices and very "delicious" sardine concoctions...it was his way of feeling he was taking an active part in my wellness...I must say I was over sardines mushed up into tofu or other delights, but it was a lovely gesture.