What can partners do to help?

this post in itself would help any partner reading it. But the same as the ladies above, My husband was and still is a rock. I think the main thing was him monitoring calls when i was first diagnosed, and really only wanted to talk to my close family. Apart from the cooking cleaning and trying to run our business in between driving me and being there for every appointment even though we live 600k's away from the hospital. He did have his down times, and normally they were when i was at my lowest during chemo. I did ask him if on the next round of chemo and i was down he could try and stay up. His response to that was he felt so out of his depth not being able to help me, and once again living rural makes it hard for any partner not having someone on hand to talk to them, I feel they are left to just get on with it.  I did say to my sister about him staying on an up when i was down, but as she pointed out... he was in a no win situation on that one. If i was down and he was happy, I probably would be asking how he can be happy when i'm so ill.... Like Rosyln said it is not only the treatment, but the after effects when you need someone close, I am 4 years since diagnoses and apart from helping me through everything including the depression, he still comes to my yearly appointments for support. So although the CD is great, I really think we need to think of a way to help our support person.