I have typed out a manual, but hey that just me. He may or may not use it, but it has condensced all the info provided, plu I can now have a clear conscience. I have sat down with him and had a few serious discussions about my concerns, or discussed things as they arise, keeping the info brief, as he hates a long story. We are noticing a change in behaviour and attitude, he is taking it all in his stride and keeping a smile on his face throughout. He hates list, so I do need to just let it happen when parents leave on 22nd and have faith in him. As he has already said "You have judged me before we have started!" However, Ive been aware of the cancer since October! I need to be patient, turn a blind eye, and trust he will be fabulous because he loves me!